If you get off on giving or receiving pain, you're not the only one. Many gay males are engaged in BDSM and the arts of bondage, domination, discipline, submission, sadism and masochism.
What constitutes BDSM? Gangbanging, blindfolding, hand-tying and nipple torture all fall under the umbrella of BDSM.
But don't get it twisted: BDSM doesn't always involve intense pain or submission, from tickling to hot candle wax play–or ice cubes on your nipples while being gagged; there are many ways submissive behavior can manifest.
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What is the History or Roots of BDSM?
While the history of BDSM is challenging to pin down, the practice is believed to have roots in Ancient Greece. Still, to some historians, it's also helpful to note that the Greeks didn't believe in concepts like "marital rape," so to state that they may have been able to establish specific power dynamics like those that exist in BDSM is a grey area.
So whether tops and submissives are quite a modern idea, or if there are roots in history, all we can say is there is something profound about pain mixed with pleasure, no matter the century.
Why Do People Like BDSM and Sex Restraints?
There's something about having a dominant partner control you, spreading you across the bed, tying you up and making you do all the things you "hate" doing. There's a pleasure to giving in; perhaps it's the concept that we already feel so much daily responsibility that there is innate pleasure in being told to shut up and take it, especially in the confines of play.
But specific BDSM ideas, like sensory deprivation and being blindfolded, do come from science which shows having one sense blocked enhances our other senses.
Most BDSM practitioners may not be able to fully articulate the "why" of what gets them off in a submissive partner, using spreader bars, or raping their partner's mouth in a "consensual" session of oral sex play; all they may be able to tell you is they like it.
Sexual experiences are incredibly personal, and as long as everyone involved is having fun, who are we to define it?
Why Do Some Men Enjoy a Gay Spanking?
Being on the receiving end of a hard spanking can feel fantastic for some men. The sensation of taking hard impacts on the ass can lead to an intense sense of pleasure, catharsis, or both.
Again, when it comes to defining our sex life, that can be a tricky riddle. But many men may feel that physical punishment is rewarding, with many studies showing that pain and pleasure receptors in our body are more intertwined than we may initially think; so that sense of endorphins from a hard slap, feeling wrist burns from some intense sessions of rope bondage, or other ways we choose to participate in impact play can all tell our brain to keep it coming: harder, better faster and stronger than the last blow.
Learn the ABCs of BDSM With the Squirt Dictionary
The gay BDSM community is notorious for its creativity and colourful sexual jargon to help dominant and submissive men who enjoy the same tortures find one another. Fortunately, Squirt.org has compiled the most extensive glossary of gay sex terms ever assembled to help newcomers navigate the types of BDSM.
If someone asks if you're into CBT or figging, you must know what those terms mean before consenting. Because BDSM is role play, one of the most important concepts is having a "safe word," a verbal signal for one partner to tell the other they want to stop. The word should be neutral, like "banana," to avoid confusion. Play it safe and educate yourself to keep the pain pleasurable.
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