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What is a Gay Dom?
A gay dom, short for dominant, is someone who takes on the role of the dominant partner in a BDSM hookup.
Unlike the submissive in the relationship or hookup, the dom is likely to be the one directing the roleplay in a horny scene, setting the rules and boundaries, and taking control in a consensual and negotiated way.
BDSM, dom and sub-relationships aren't defined by one picture or definition; how the partners commit to the relationship, define the rules, comprehend the dynamic between them, and redefine it is up to them. However, on paper, you should be able to see a clear "push and pull" in which one dominates control, and one relinquishes, give or take, nuances that you wouldn't be able to perhaps see on your own without clear commentary.
Is a Gay Dom the Same as Being a Gay Top?
While a gay dom and a gay top may share some similarities, they are not necessarily the same thing.
For example, a top may take control and annihilate the hole of a horny and eager young twink; however, a top may not be the one in power just because they are the ones giving versus receiving in penetrative gay sex; this is where you might see a term such as "power bottom," in which all of the power is actually in the recipient of the dick, who may be on top, commanding the thrust of the cock or even bossing around the top to ensure they both finish with a triumphant and erotic end.
A power bottom is one example in which a more apparent "submissive" role in terms of sex position could be seen as a sub but would be more dominant. However, this type of relationship and power play may not even qualify as a sub/dom relationship in most BDSM circles. Not to say that it isn't, as that is up to the participants in the hookup to define.
Again, a sub/dom relationship doesn't have to be violent or involve whips and chains, but it may extend further than who is on top in sex based on preference and position.
Is Rough Gay Sex Classified As BDSM?
Rough gay sex can certainly involve elements of BDSM, but it is not necessarily classified as such. BDSM encompasses a wide range of activities, including bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, and sadomasochism.
Rough sex may involve intense physical sensations, power dynamics, and control. Still, it doesn't always involve the same level of structure, negotiation, and consent that are typical in BDSM play.
While rough gay sex can be exciting and pleasurable for those who enjoy it, it's important to distinguish between consensual rough sex and non-consensual or abusive behavior. Consent and communication are key in any sexual encounter, whether it includes elements of BDSM or not. If you are engaging in rough gay sex, make sure to establish clear boundaries, use safe words, and prioritize the well-being and comfort of all parties involved.
If I'm Into Dom Gay Porn, Would I Enjoy the Experience for Myself?
Enjoying dom gay porn doesn't necessarily mean that you would enjoy being a dom in real-life BDSM experiences. Most people get off on the escapism of porn, seeing encounters that turn them on to watch but is not something they want to experience or be a part of themselves.
However, porn can be a gateway to safely explore a form of sex you may want for yourself but aren't precisely sure how to access. You may be watching dom gay porn, watching a little hottie sub flail and moan, and be turned on that you might want to try it for yourself.
Don't be scared; while watching more intense roleplay like consensual non-consent sex in porn can be seen as sub/dom, that doesn't mean it has to be the type of gay sub/dom sex or BDSM you explore. It could be light humiliation, getting commanded to suck and deepthroat, taking pleasure in being told what to do, but again, the parameters are up to you to create.
If you're finding something hot in your fave porn scene, something you keep flipping to in your mind as you jerk off alone at night, or you're lying in bed with a hookup stud, and you wanna ask them to try it, don't be shy. Just be sure you have everyone on board for the sexy fun so it can lead to some sexy results.
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