Being the gay male that may be taking the dick, certainly doesn't have to mean you're the submissive one if you ride that cock; if you run the rhythm, tempo and speed of the hardcore gay bareback fuck, you might as well be the one running the show.
Taking dick like a champ in charge isn’t an easy thing to accomplish, but for those who do, we salute you; and for those who want to know more on how they can get more in charge with their tight hole, even when they’re biting a pillow on their stomach, we’ve got some tips to keep in mind.
What is a Power Bottom in the Gay Community?
A power bottom in the gay community isn't just a CEO or someone who takes charge of their finances (maybe even their destiny) in the streets, and then also likes to take dick in their ass.
No, a power bottom is someone who takes explicit control of the gay hookup or sexual encounter while bottoming; that is, being the receiver of the dick and still not allowing themselves to be a stereotype of someone who lies down and takes it.
They are confident, dominant, and know what they want in bed. Usually, it means their ass and their hips are doing a lot of the work, ensuring the dick is hitting the right spot and also ensuring that they're squeezing, gyrating and moving for the ultimate pleasure, but mostly to ensure and keep control of the sexual situation.
Power bottoms are not submissive in bed, and being a power bottom is not just about physical strength but also about mental and emotional empowerment.
How Do I Find a Gay Power Bottom for Gay Hookups?
When it comes to finding a gay power bottom for hookups, it's essential to be clear about your intentions and what you're looking for, and a hookup app like Squirt is a great way to make a gay dating profile, lay it all bare what you're looking for in your profile turn-ons section, and of course, scoping hot local gay males on your grid who identify as a power bottom and send a message.
If you need a little IRL interaction, use Squirt to find local gay cruising spots such as cruising bathrooms or gay bathhouses. However, chat features on a gay hookup app allow you to be direct, asking a horny muscle twink or sexy femboy if they love to take charge with some dick. It's harder to be so assertive at the local drag show or initiate conversation at a local gay sauna to state your intentions.
Ultimately, finding a gay power bottom for hookups is about being open, communicating clearly, and not being afraid to hear a few rejections until you land on the one who meets the criteria as a dominant and bossy ass slave.
I Want to Be the Bottom on Top! What Are Some Gay Bottom Tips to Try?
If you are already a bossy hottie that knows what you like when you do get some anal play, but you need the butt confidence to become that power bottom of your dreams, you'll need to practice and get better. Not just with some hot anonymous hookups but at home with some decent gay sex toys, dildos and a will to persevere.
One way is to explore different positions, both with guys and with toys alone.
For example, if you find you take dick better on your back, on your stomach or on top, explore that. Your ability to move and maneuver your body into the best position for you allows you to be confident in your power bottom status and is a vital part of improving as a bottom.
Why? It will enable you to have the movement and flexibility to push your ass and punish their dick (in a good way!) all night long.
From the optimal position, you can take charge of the pace and communicate what you need, knowing you have the best position to keep up stamina.
Of course, if you feel like you're looking to be a better bottom first, explore those toys mentioned above to work on stamina, opening your hole on on the regular or before a hookup comes over so you're engaging the muscles, abs and pelvic floor that makes most power bottoms so good at what they do. Practice makes perfect, and then perfect can take dick without any concerns of shooting their load too quickly or tapping out when the dick is too large for one's good.
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Butt sex is fun and Squirt knows the best way to control the tempo of your sex life is having a variety of dudes near you, online and ready to get a little action.
The sexual experience is yours to create with Squirt, so whether you’re lying back and receiving pleasure, or on top riding hard with sweat dripping down your frame, Squirt is free to join and allows you to message guys all around the world or on your block for some pants-down fun.
Join today, find that horny bottom you crave and find out what you’re missing.